Discussing Premature Ejaculation with your Partner
by Sarah Price
Coming to terms with your premature ejaculation problem alone is difficult enough; never mind discussing this extremely sensitive issue with your partner. However, if you are in a serious relationship with your partner, it is important to open up, and solve this issue together.
Once you have the support of your partner, tackling premature ejaculation will be a much easier task.
So how exactly do you begin to discuss this with your partner? Let's examine two scenarios - discussing the issue with a long-term partner, and also a new partner.
Discussing premature ejaculation with your long-term partner
If you have been sexually active with the same partner for several years, no doubt your partner is already aware of the issue. However, they are likely to also be experiencing feelings of embarrassment with regards to discussing the matter.
Your partner doesn't want to question your manhood, yet at the same time, he/she will want to help solve the problem, so that you both have a satisfying sexual experience.
Confronting the problem together can make things a lot easier, and having your partner understand what you are going through, may even prolong your ejaculation - with your partners' understanding comes less pressure to perform.
The crucial part is the initiation of conversation regarding this issue. It often seems so difficult to break the ice, and actually discuss your problem, no matter how close you and your partner are.
For this reason, you must approach things in a positive way. Instead of saying something like "Darling, I'm sorry, I know I finish too quickly, it's really getting me down, I'm so embarrassed, what do you want me to do about it?"
Try something more along the lines of "Darling, I really enjoy our lovemaking sessions, but I would like to be able to please you more. Can we discuss ways that might help me to please you more?" At this point, you can start to talk about products or techniques you have been researching,
Your partner will be elated that you have confronted the problem, he/she will encourage and support you, and this new understanding between yourself and your partner will improve all sexual activity.
Upon discovering a solution that works for you (and your partner), the bond between the two of you shall be strengthened considerably, and the overall happiness you both experience in your relationship will improve dramatically.
Discussing premature ejaculation with a new partner
Unlike with a long-term partner, it can be somewhat awkward to discuss an issue as highly sensitive as this one with a new partner.
In some cases, you may prefer to seek out a solution by yourself, without the knowledge of your new partner.
If however you would like to discuss this issue with your new partner, some ways will be better than others.
How do I approach the issue?
The best way to open up to your new partner is by generally discussing ways to spice up your sex life. Let's not fool ourselves guys, if the sex isn't lasting more than a couple of minutes, our new partner will already be aware of the issues we are facing.
By offering to experiment with new things, we open up the dialogue, without having to explicitly state that we would like to last longer in the bedroom.
Your partner will understand this, and will appreciate the effort you are making to improve things between the sheets.
The result is an unspoken agreement, whereby your partner is quietly happy to be on the receiving end of longer sex sessions, and you have been able to gain the understanding and trust from your partner, without having to explicitly discuss any shortcomings in your performance.
The only issue to solve now is finding a safe and effective solution to help prolong your love-making sessions.
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