The Key to Lasting Longer
How to last longer?
Firstly let us take a look at defining the complaint:
Premature Ejaculation is a result of an orgasm occurring before the male wants to.
It is widely regarded that both partners in a relationship will
be happy with the length of time if they are happy with their sex life, regardless of how long it takes. The issue is when either party feels the need to be satisfied a little longer.
How Common Is It?
In simple words, it is very common. The main occurrence of premature ejaculation (PE) usually stems from when the man becomes sexually active and has involuntary orgasms, whether it is rushed due to not wanting to be caught, such as masturbation. This has a negative effect from the start of the sex life.
Where Does PE Stem From?
The causes of PE can be from a younger age and wanting to masturbate quickly to have the result in the most minimal of time-frames. This leads to taking the expected climax time to relationships and can even cause breakups or severe unhappiness in both partners. Anxiety from previous relationships or arguments with past relationship partners can cause the issue to worsen. If both parties work towards a common goal, the sex life will be a happy and more enjoyable situation. If intercourse happens to be a quick turn around the first time round, then more foreplay or a half time erotic massage as an intermission can allow you to regain composure and be a champion of the bedroom the second time round.
The Burning Question: How to Last Longer?
There are tricks or certain areas of the art of sex which you can fully enjoy it, for a longer time. You need to become in charge of your orgasms, in charge of how your body reacts and know when you reach the limit of you arousal and counteract it to benefit both partners.
The avoidance of drugs and alcohol is a major factor as it slows the awareness of you body’s reaction time. Taking deep breaths and relaxing during sexual intercourse is not a bad way to start. Your partner will agree, taking a slight break to compose yourself will ultimately make the experience more enjoyable and will not mind.
Other ways to help include:
- Masturbation - Masturbating around 2-4 hours before allows the penis to become ready for longer the next time around. It can also help have a stronger as well as longer lasting erection.
- The Squeeze Method - To delay an orgasm, squeeze the penis shaft for 20-30 seconds, then carry on lovemaking.
- The Stop-Start Technique - You can perform this alone or with a partner to build up the feeling of climaxing and stopping. This will increase the orgasm time due to repetition and you will be in tune with what your body is doing.
By developing you pelvic floor muscles, the ones which stop and start urination, you can increase the way you can control ejaculation. Similarly to the Squeeze Method above, you are squeezing or tensing from the inside. By building these muscles you can effectively encourage a longer lasting time in the bedroom.
To perform the exercises, which of course can be done anywhere, you need to hold the muscles for 3 seconds, then relax them for 3 seconds. Just as you would do when you go to the gym and lift weights. By working the muscles they will become stronger and you will have more of an idea of what is going on down there.
Once you are stronger in the pelvic region, you can work your way up to 100 ‘squeezes’ with 1 second intervals. This will also cause you to maintain a stronger erection and increases blood flow to the penis. Add these techniques together and your sex life will increase, your partner’s happiness and enjoyment from intercourse will be bolstered, and premature ejaculation will be a thing of the past.
Breathing
One area of sex which is far too commonly overlooked is correct breathing. Understanding your body and its tendencies can be controlled with deep, relaxing breaths. This calms the nerves or tension which can lead to PE. Similar to meditation, you lower the heart rate which in turn relaxes muscles. You and your partner will benefit from having long lasting sexual intercourse and both parties will be more fulfilled.
Communication between partners is the key to any good relationship, obviously if you are trying breathing techniques, talking about it before hand will be good preparation. Letting your partner know you are almost at a climax and stopping penetration to concentrate on other parts of lovemaking, will lead to a more rounded sex life.
Desensitizing Creams - Explained
Many men who have encountered PE have probably heard or have found out about desensitizing creams. They are an anesthetic cream which stops any feeling in the penis, ultimately lasting longer, but at the expense of the man’s enjoyment. There is D-Lay® for Men which is 100% herbal and has natural ingredients which has no chemical side effects and allows a longer time-frame between arousal and ejaculation as well as a more rigid and firmer erection. Desensitizing creams which are chemical based, only numb the penis and cause irritation or burning to the female partner.
By using a herbal product, there are only results which are beneficial without discomfort. Panax Ginseng and Butea Superba are famously known for their sexual enhancement qualities, which are both present in D-Lay® for Men.
Summary
Premature ejaculation can be made an aspect of the past, no more unfulfilled partners, no more anxiety before, during and after sex, just longer lasting and more enjoyable intercourse.
By using techniques, building pelvic muscles and using a non-chemical formulated cream will be a multiple change for the way you handle you sex life and create a better bond between you and your partner.
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